Care of the Dying, Grief & Loss

Essential Oils can ground our energy and calm our spirits especially when faced with the shock of losing someone we love in the aftermath of their death. They are especially useful plant spirits when there has been a traumatic death such as an accident or a suicide and the death is unexpected. The oils come into their own and work on a deep level very quickly. The Aromatherapist becomes a vessel for the oil to work its magic on the bereaved person. Sacred Oils in the ancient Myrrhophore tradition are also used to support the grieving process.

Oils that are especially helpful at this time are Ravensara, Eucalyptus and Peppermint helping to keep the airways open when the bereaved person is finding it hard to breathe due to profound shock and grief. The root emotion of the lungs and of the metal element is grief so these oils help open the chest and encourage a more expansive sense of awareness. Frankincense is also deeply calming in times of shock and the gentle oils of mandarin and neroli are also useful in aiding sleep and reducing anxiety. The Bach Flower Remedies such as Rescue Remedy and Star of Bethlehem which is one of the essences in the Rescue Remedy blend are also extremely good for shock and grief and are particularly gentle and supportive.

60min Treatments Sacred Oils for Grief £70

Using Sacred Oils in the ancient Myrrhophore (Myrrh bearer) tradition is a wonderful way to support people in the process of dying. Specific Sacred Essential Oils help people leave the human body with gentleness and ease. Some oils have a grounding effect while others can have an uplifting and reassurring effect. 

As we die our energy field changes. We are made up of the 5 elements of Air, Fire, Water, Earth and Metal which gradually start to withdraw from the body causing changes to the energy field. Certain oils support this transition between the physical and non-physical world. Dying is a process involving different stages of elemental letting go. The Sacred Oils can help with each stage of dying providing comfort, support and ease for the person dying and their family. The use of candles, song, poetry along with the oils can help reduce fear and induce a sense of calm and peace helping the person to go gently and the family to feel comforted.

Sacred Oils for Grief £70

90min Home Visit for Sacred Oils in Care of the dying £95

A Grief Tending Circle is a sacred space held within a community to bring people together who are grieving so that they can support one another and tend to their own grief, the grief of others and acknowledge the grief going on in the wider world.

Our grief circles are strongly held by a trained circle facilitator and each circle is centred on a grief-related theme that is explored with the group. There is often a guided meditation and breathwork exercise to ground the energy and to help people to connect with themselves so they can access the support in the group with ease.

There will be opportunities to share with others using the Indian Cherokee talking stick while others actively listen and allow each person space to express emotions or give voice to what needs to be expressed in that moment.

Using the 5 gates of grief from Francis Weller’s wonderful book ‘The Wild Edge of Sorrow’ is a way to explore many different faces of grief to bring communal grief out of the shadows so it can be seen, felt, heard, expressed and processed in healthy ways.

Once again and in Community there is the ability to feel joy again in life and grow around the loss suffered and endured. This space gives people an opportunity to honor their grief with others and release it to help cope with the loss in everyday life.

“The purpose of ritual is to connect us to our own essence, to help us to tune into the collective spirit, or to mend whatever is broken, whatever wires have been pulled out of one’s life, so we can start anew. Ritual is to the soul what food is to the physical body”.

- Sobonfu Some (Author and Healer)

2hr Grief Tending Circles £35 

1:1 Grief & Bereavement Listening Service  £60